Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Bittersweet Day!

Well, today was the most amazing and emotional and sad day all in one that we've ever had throughout our 5 adoption experiences. We got to meet Grace Nadja's birth father, his sister and a maternal uncle. They travelled several hours today to come say goodbye to sweet Grace. Let me just tell you how much they love this little girl and how hard this meeting was for ALL of us. As soon as they came in the room, we all started crying. Very few, if any, families ever get the opportunity to meet birth family so we are totally blessed to have experienced this today. We now know why we did not get our signature yesterday. If we had, we would have travelled for the adoption ceremony today and they may not have been able to come say goodbye. I will never question God's timing again! Sadly 2 of Grace's sisters are in the hospital with pneumonia so her mother was unable to come. However, we hope to meet her after the adoption ceremony. Grace won't be with us then though so she won't be able to see her again and that breaks my heart. We got many many photos today and a little video as well to show Grace when she's older. It is so obvious how much they love her. They have our blog address and will be able to watch her grow up and thrive in our home. We are so thankful they want to keep in touch and they have invited us to visit them if we are ever back in this country. They are such warm and loving people and we feel like they are now a part of our family too. I just don't even have the words to express the love we felt today. We got to spend a total of about 3 hours with them today and even though they don't speak English, we were able to communicate. The embrace I got from Grace's father was the biggest, tightest, longest, and most heart felt hug I've ever received from ANYONE!!! We both just sobbed. I cried equally as hard when he and Jon embraced. I would love to post a few pictures but I will not unless I get their permission. I want to protect their privacy and do not want them to feel any shame or embarrassment for placing her for adoption. If they could, they surely would have kept her. Resources for a child with Down syndrome just don't exist here and her surgeries for the cleft palate are just too expensive. They asked us MANY questions today about resources for her and were pleased with what we will be able to offer her. We shared photos of our other kids and saw pictures of Grace's siblings as well has her paternal grand parents. We may even be blessed to receive some baby photos of her. God's timing and plan are perfect all the time and we couldn't be happier with the way things are going right now. I'll stop now as I'm starting to cry again visualizing Grace's father saying goodbye and looking back as he walks to the elevator.

8 comments:

Gaining Grace said...

What a heartwrenching experience. I know that some day Grace will be reminded of this and feel blessed that she now has 2 families who love her.

soontobemomof9 said...

This brought tears to my eyes.... lots of emotions. What a gift to meet them, to know how they loved her, to have them be able to watch her grow!

Gods plans and timing are so far above our understanding, but sometimes he lets us clearly see jsut why he does what he does!

And patiently waiting... said...

What a beautiful story!!! We felt the same way when we met Kristina's mother! I will never forget that!!

Jodi said...

Oh my, that was sad. I feel so bad for them. I sure would love it if we got the chance to meet Hunters family, but boy, the emotions would be tough.

Jodi Lewandoski

Amy L said...

Wow, this must have been hard....but you are so blessed to have this relationship with them. You have given them peace knowing that Grace will be loved and have a life full of opportunities. They will never have to worry about what her future will hold now.
Amy

Milena said...

What a gift to treasure; for them to know with whom their girl left and what rich possibilities she will get, for you to have met her birthfamily and seen photos, and for Nadja Grace to share in the future! I'm amazed, but I do understand it must have taken a lot of energy out of you!


- I'm blogging for Nadya; to help her find a family -

Devon said...

What a beautiful post. I was crying the entire time I was reading it. What a blessing that you had this opportunity with her birth family and will be able to stay in touch throughout the years. I really enjoy following your experience. We are in the process of adopting Sean and it helps to follow similar journeys.

Mommy and Peepers said...

God is good. What an experience. You are so blessed to meet her family and to know that they love her so much. It must be hard for them, but also comforting to know that baby Grace is going to be taken care of and loved by your family.